Allow Yourself The Uncomfortable Luxury of Changing Your Mind

“Ours is a culture where one of the most embarrassing things is not to have an opinion, so we form our opinions hastily, based on quick impressions and borrowed convictions. It’s so disorienting to simply say, “I don’t know,” but it’s infinitely more rewarding to understand than to be right – even if that means changing your mind.” – Maria Popova

How true is this? Most of us (including me) get into arguments discussing things we don’t know anything about. The other day I had a friend who asked me my opinion on the whole Antman Vs the Wasp controversy. I didn’t know what she was talking about so I asked her to clear my confusion and she said “Oh, you know, there is this big online controversy that the Wasp should have gotten the movie over Antman seeing as the Wasp technically created the Avengers etc.. Just more furthering of the white male supremacy that is becoming the Marvel universe.”

Ok so I don’t have a problem with her opinion. What I do have a problem with is that these “controversies” and “debates”and “issues” and “agendas” and “causes” are not their opinions. These opinions belong to someone else. And that opinion becomes internet famous and then everyone believes that they hold the same opinion or should hold the same opinion or else be labeled a jerk. These opinions become “internet causes” and everyone wants to change the way things are done. Which is fine. As long as your reason for wanting change is because you really care about the problematic situation. Not because of peer pressure. Not because someone somewhere tells you that this is why things are wrong and this is the way you should feel about them. And this is how they need to change. The thing is, these things snowball. Soon everyone is fighting for a cause that they wouldn’t care about before but care about now because it’s cool to have the same opinion as others. I don’t get why internet opinions such as “How about we send half our paycheck to feed starving people in the third world countries” are not more popular. Why are people not willing to stand up for things that REALLY matter by any moral and ethical standard? Why are we stuck with #FirstWorldProblems!? And why do we feel so righteous about these things? We haven’t really solved a huge problem affecting the entire world. We should feel this cool the day we end world hunger.

So there you go. People should start standing up for real issues. Otherwise, I think people just need to say “You know what? I don’t care. It doesn’t particularly bother me. I’m fine with the way things are going in this world and it’s no body’s fault!” if they don’t really care, without having to feel and being viewed as jerks.

And this is just my opinion. Please feel free to disagree.

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